Motivational Meditation Monday: Keep Calm & Don’t Gossip
“Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.”
Meditation On Gossip
How often do we discuss another person with someone and skew what the original conversation was about? Or talk about others to ensure that our friends agree with our thoughts about the person we dislike? Many times we use Gossip as a means to make ourselves feel better or we do it because we think others need to hear our concerns; we are only trying to be helpful of course. Gossip barbed with our anger, a polite form of murder by character assassination, has its satisfactions for us, too, 12&12 Step Six, p.67. Whatever the reasoning, it’s usually followed by a selfish motive. How will this benefit and fulfill my needs?
Gossip comes in all forms and sometimes is not so easily seen. An innocent conversation, taken out of context, can create turmoil and anger without much effort. This character defect not only has the power to hurt you and others, but it also has the power to make those in recovery not trust the process of what the program has to offer. When we encounter gossip, or perceived gossip, how we handle the situation is a true testament of where we are in our program. If we lash out and create more chaos without finding out what is really behind the “gossip”, then we are basing our thoughts and ideas on what someone else said. We are trusting entirely in a human power to dictate our perception and actions.
We can’t stop others from talking about us or even other people. We do however have the power to not engage and not do it ourselves. What others perceive is their own reality and it does not make it a fact. Do not let others dictate who you are by their blatant gossip, in time the truth always comes out. What’s in the dark usually finds its way into the light; we are to just worry about our side of the street. What others say or do is none of our business; we just focus on what we are doing. As long as we know our motives are pure, we can leave the gossiping to those who are better equipped to handle the consequences. It is not for us.
Written by: Watershed Ashling