Motivational Meditation Monday: Keep Calm & Build Friendships
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
Meditation On Friendships
When we were using and drinking, for most of us, our friends were of a scattered sort. We chose people that were less than or undesirable to society. The longer we stayed out using and drinking the more we found ourselves surrounded by people we wouldn’t normally be around. We started to see that our “so called” friends were not really our friends after all. Friends don’t drag you down, nor does it hurt to love them. Friendship is built on selfless acts of kindness.
We come into the program not knowing how to be a friend to ourselves, or anyone else for that matter. We have been so used to treating ourselves and others with disrespect, disregard, and selfish behaviors that we didn’t understand what true friendship was. When we get clean and sober, we have to actually learn how to build new friendships in a healthy and loving manner. We may fail a few times, but we see that most of our true friendships happen automatically without too much effort on our parts. We don’t have to “try” to win people over, pretend to be someone else, or lie about our past; we are accepted just as we are.
Many Friendships in the program eventually develop into a fellowship where men and women find a common bond: the disease of alcoholism and addiction. The experience we all share gives us the opportunity to truly understand where others have come from, and allows us to accept each other for our good points and not so good points. We may not know if you had a dog growing up or that you danced with the most popular kid in middle school, but we will know your deepest trials because we were once there too. We understand on a level that most people study their entire lives to better understand. This empathy comes naturally to us. Our friendships today are built around love, understanding, patience, and care. We found that when we live by principles our friendships are stronger and more beautiful. We become less interested in self, and more interested in our fellows.
Written by: Watershed Ashling