Addiction Recovery: When Can I Start Making Amends?
When you’ve just started the addiction recovery process, you may want to jump ahead in your program. In fact, it’s not unusual for individuals in recovery from addiction to want to skip a few steps and go from putting down the drugs and alcohol to reaching out to anybody they have ever hurt before. However, this can be detrimental not only to your recovery but also to other people that you may have already impacted in the past. So, if you can’t jump ahead and make amends right away, when is it appropriate to do so?
Understanding Addiction Recovery
Working a 12 Step Program like Alcoholics Anonymous and/or Narcotics Anonymous can be essential for your addiction recovery because it is a program that shows you not only how to get sober but also stay that way long-term. Each of the 12 Steps serves their own purpose, but they are not meant to be done out of order. There’s a reason that the 12 Steps were designed in an order, which is why it is critical to take them one step at a time and not skip ahead. It’s just as important to be going through these steps with someone who has already worked them, otherwise known as a sponsor.
Making Amends in Recovery
The actual process of making amends doesn’t actually happen until later on in the Steps during Step 9. However, the initial phase of recognizing those you have harmed and becoming willing to make amends to them occurs during Step 8. This means that before you go off running to make amends, you must go through Steps 1 through 8 and become willing to make those amends by the end of Step 8. If you jump to make amends prematurely, you may experience that the people you hurt find you insincere. In addition, without going through each of the prior steps, you may not be able to truly grasp the harm that you caused or understand where you were wrong.
Knowing When the Time Is Right
You’ll know when it’s time to make amends because you will have gone through the steps in chronological order with a sponsor. When you work the steps, your sponsor will guide you as they were guided so that you can go through each step in order, one step at a time. You and your sponsor will go over the list of people you have harmed during Step 8. From there, your sponsor will go over the process and help you discover who to start making the amends to first.
Making amends at the right time is just as important as being able to make them. When you’re in addiction recovery, try not to rush the process. Even though you may want to run through every step, it’s critical to go through each step and understand the importance of each. If you race through your steps, you may miss something important. It’s your recovery, so give yourself enough time to see the truth.
Are you still struggling to admit that you have an alcohol and/or drug problem? You may not even know how to put down substances altogether. The Watershed offers medical detoxification and inpatient rehabilitation to help you get to the right state of mind and body so that you can work on your addiction recovery. Call The Watershed for help today at 1-800-861-1768.Tags: Addiction, addiction recovery