#MotivationMonday: Be Kind
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” ― Wendy Mass
It is not uncommon for us alcoholic/addicts to gain resentments over something that we may perceive to be reality. Many times when I get a resentment it is because I am uncomfortable about something within myself or whomever my resentments are at, struck a chord with me. There are a few things that help me alleviate these resentments though, and they are as follows.
Don’t take it personally
Whatever they are doing, or not doing, has nothing to do with me. If they are rude, inconsiderate, selfish, gossipy, then that is on them, not me. How they treat me or others is a direct reflection of who they are and when I remember that, I can breathe easier. So, I just don’t take it personally, because they also may be fighting a battle I know nothing about. Maybe they are rude or mean to me, maybe they are just going through something and they don’t even realize how they are acting, it still has nothing to do with me, so why worry? This makes it much easier to let go and be kind regardless.
If that doesn’t work, or even if it does, I pray for them. I pray for them because they may actually be going through something and may really need those prayers. I pray for them because I am going through something in regards to the resentment I picked up and I need peace, too. We are all only human and we have feelings, sometimes real, sometimes made-up, but it doesn’t mean we can’t learn, grow, and become free from those pesky little resentments. It’s all part of the process of recovery and it’s actually pretty cool, because once you see that prayer works in simple areas like this, you see how awesome it is in other areas of our lives.
Regardless of how others behave, be simply you. Who you are is good enough. There are plenty of people in this world that do not like me, it’s OK, because I can’t please everyone and I won’t. I also don’t have to be people pleasers to those who do not like me just to get them to like me, either. I can simply just be me and be kind regardless of their actions. Why? Because that is just who I am, so why change? I can set healthy boundaries without being rude, too. Not everything is all or nothing, so don’t try to go overboard with not people pleasing by being completely cold. Balance is everything.
Just for today, allow others to be who they are and allow yourself to be who you are, but don’t forget to be kind because you never know what someone else is going through.
Written By: Watershed AshlingTags: keep calm, motivation monday, motivational monday, motivational monday meditation, Watershed Ashling