Motivational Meditation Monday: Keep Calm and Be Selfless
“Make your passion your life. Just don’t make it about you.” ― Leigh Hershkovich
When I first got sober I was really confused when I heard people say that the program of recovery that I was working was a selfish program, while also being told that I had to start being selfless. How can one be selfless and selfish at the same time? What I didn’t know then was that there was a big difference between selfish and self-care. Being selfish meant that I would only and always think of myself (which is funny because I usually sabotage my own life) and having self-care meant that I could incorporate taking care of myself while thinking of others.
Selfless vs. Selfish
Selfless is not thinking less of me, but thinking of me less. What I have discovered in these past few 24-hours is that it’s important that I have self-care. In order for me to be happy, joyous, and free I have to take care of myself. If I take care of myself I am then able to take care of others. I do not think that is selfish, but rather the opposite. I can’t very well be there for others if my own house is not in order. I have to meditate, go to meetings, connect with my Higher Power, sleep and eat well, exercise, and make sure I have balance in my life. Balance in my life includes setting healthy boundaries and taking things one day at a time. Caring for my emotional, physical, and mental wellbeing also plays a huge role in my recovery. I found that if I am burning energy foolishly, I am of no use to myself or others. These are the self-care things I must incorporate into my recovery so that I can remain selfless.
Today I know that sacrificing my time and energy doesn’t have to come at the price of my recovery. I can be selfless while still providing self-care. I do not think that taking care of me is a selfish act, nor do I think that of others. We are all just trying to find balance and learn in this life what that balance looks like. Some days we are on point, while other days we are way off, and that is Okay, too. There is no perfection, just progress, so don’t sell yourself short on your own expectations of how things should be. There is always room to grow and that is pretty cool if you think about it.
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