Positive Parenting Tips: 4 Ways Most Parents Are Hurting Their Kids
One of the ways parents want to help protect their kids from drug addiction and alcoholism is by teaching them tools to help prevent the need to use drugs or abuse alcohol in the first place. Experience is showing us just talking to kids about drugs and alcohol is not enough, and that parents should consider other avenues. These positive parenting tips below can help teach kids how to respect themselves, set appropriate boundaries, and make healthy choices.
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No Means No
Most parents like to play with their kids by tickling, roughhousing, or teasing, but the moment your child says no, you need to stop. No needs to mean no in situations like this. By respecting your child’s wishes, you are teaching them that when they say no, the other person should stop. You are also teaching that when someone else says no they need to stop, too. This will help your child stand strong in their beliefs as they get older. Let them approach you for more playtime; they will make it obvious if they want to play more. This will also enable them to feel more in control of their bodies and their feelings.
Disregarding Their Feelings
Do not disregard your child’s feelings. When they say things like, “I’m hungry,” or, “I’m tired,” we frequently say in return, “No, you’re not. You just ate,” or “No, you’re not. You just napped.” By repsonding in this way, we are telling them that what they are feeling is not real, and can create denial in their actual feelings. This will later make it difficult for your child to understand their feelings and identify how to approach them.
Forcing your children to give affection to other family members or friends can create confusion between boundaries that your child may already be setting. Your kids may have their minds set on who they would like to share a hug with, or how they would like to engage with others. When parents force them to override their own boundaries, it creates conflict of emotions and can later confuse your child when determining how to build healthy relationships. Children who are forced to share affection may also find it difficult to say no when they need to. Teaching your child manners, such as saying please and thank you, is very different than encouraging the act of people pleasing (just so you are not embarrassed that your child is not showing affection to other family members or friends).
We are not saying that children should disrespect their elders, but they shouldn’t feel that what they have to say is less important than anyone else in the conversation. Eliminating the concept that age or height equals power, you may also eliminate drug use, alcohol abuse, or abusive relationships in the future by implementing this positive parenting tip. Teaching your children to show respect to others while respecting themselves will help them grow into strong young adults and help them handle situations that might be otherwise be difficult.
Positive Parenting Tips & Tricks
These positive parenting tips may seem like simple suggestions, but they are suggestions that could help prevent future mental health issues like alcoholism, drug addiction, abusive relationships, as well as other mental health problems. It is never too late to start these positive parenting suggestions and help set healthy boundaries with your children. The change can start with you, and it can start today.
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