“No one has ever become poor by giving.” – Anne Frank, diary of Anne Frank
Meditation On How To Help Others
If you have been in recovery for any length of time you may have heard these words “It’s a selfish program.” If you really work a 12 step program, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Working a 12 step program is ultimately about being self-less and helping others. The next question you may be asking is “How can I help others if I don’t take care of me first?” Simple, self-care and being selfish are two very different actions.
Selfish vs. Self-Care
When we are selfish, it means we care only how we can benefit from the situation, we become self-seeking, self-centered, and self-absorbed. It’s all about us. When we have self-care, it means that we take care of ourselves so that we may be of service and have the ability to help others. Our primary purpose is not about us, but rather about others. The people who are most happy clean and sober, live life balanced. They take care of self so that they are well enough to help others. You can’t very well help others if you are still sick. In the same respect, you can’t get better if all you do is take care of yourself without regard to others. Balance is crucial.
How To Be Happy In Recovery
Did you ever notice that the happiest people are the ones that help others? They are the ones volunteering their time, smiling and giving compliments, and living life to the fullest selflessly. They also enjoy sharing their happiness rather than sadness with others, and they seem to live life peacefully as a result. They also have enough time to tend to their own self-care needs and set healthy appropriate boundaries so that they can continue to help others without being drained of their own energy. They are the people that rely on their Higher Power and don’t boast about the work they do, they just live it. Most of the time, you see their actions more than their words and they are happy, joyous, and free.
This way of life can be adapted immediately. It’s a decision to change and try something new. The moment you stop and think “how can I help others today?” is the moment that you made a decision to live life selflessly. Most of us work our whole lives trying to obtain happiness. We think it can only be found in the material world. If we got partners, children, houses, cars, clothes, jewelry, money, anyone can add to the list of material wants, we would be happy. The truth is, most of us found happiness today and we didn’t even have all those things. We found that our real happiness was inside of us all along; we could choose to be happy right now. All we had to do to obtain this happiness was help others. It was really that simple.
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