Addiction on facebook And Active Addiction, Living day to day in active addiction is painful – I know because I was there. But watching your friends struggle publicly with their addiction on Facebook, and knowing you are powerless to help, has its own kind of pain, too.
My Facebook feed is littered with active addicts. Some know they are addicted and need help; others know they have a problem and don’t care – or so we think.
Judging Our Fellow Addicts
I am sure you have seen them, too. It’s painful and frustrating to watch. Sometimes I just want to shake them and say, “Stop it! What are you doing? You don’t have to live like this. Why don’t you love yourself more?” Pretty sure our parents, friends, and loved ones said the same thing about us at one time, and that is probably the hardest part to accept.
Some of us even question our own past as a result, “Was I that bad?” The answer is, most likely, yes. Maybe you didn’t do some of the things other people are doing, but your actions, like mine, affected a lot of people. That is what the disease of addiction does. I think it makes us so nasty and sick that while it works hard at killing us, it makes sure that other people judge us and don’t want to help us.
We do things we normally would never do if we were in the right state of mind. Or maybe we would do them regardless if we are sober or not because we haven’t learned any other way or know there is another way.
It’s easier to watch active addiction on Facebook and say things like, “They know what to do, they just don’t want it,” or, “Have fun destroying your life, loser.” As we sit high and mighty on our recovery cloud thinking about how amazing we are that we got sober and of course save lives with our newfound wisdom.
First Things First
First things first, the addict that knows he has a problem and is seeking help vs. the addict who is still in active addiction and not seeking help, suffers from the same disease that you and I suffer from, they are just at a different stage. It doesn’t mean that they are less than and that we are better than. It just means that our stage of the disease and various experiences allowed us to surrender and work a program of recovery so that our addiction could be placed in remission. We were fortunate enough that others were patient, loving, and tolerant while supporting and not enabling us into recovery.
They did this long enough for us to see that we needed help and then for us to accept it. And since our disease is in remission and not cured, it can always take us right back out if were aren’t trying to grow in our recovery. So when I am judging another sick and suffering addict, I am hurting myself as well as them and my fellows. We recover together and share our experience, strength, and hope so that others know there is a way out. Do not let your ego stop you from that purpose. Let us remember that our recovery is a gift and in order to keep it we must give it away.