What is love addiction? This Valentine’s Day, it might be tricky to tell genuine feelings apart from love addiction, especially if a new romance is blossoming, you’re waiting to hear back from a former flame, or you’re heartbroken over a recent breakup. Feeling confused about love is not uncommon. Who wouldn’t want to be desired, loved, accepted, and understood by another? But engaging in unhealthy codependent behaviors could cause you more harm than you think.
Understanding Love Addiction
Becoming hooked to the experience of falling in love is far from magical and more of an actual illness than anything else. Throwing an individual’s life into absolute shambles and beyond emotional despair, love addiction can be devastating. Even when the other person has requited feelings, the obsession you may end up having for another person can become debilitating. If your prime concern in life is solely based upon the existence of another person and your every focus revolves around their every notion, you may have found yourself entangled in a love addiction. So how do you know when it’s real love? Being able to tell the difference by knowing the signs of love addiction can help you decide. Only then can you can pull yourself out of denial and make a change if you feel like you may be in lust rather than true love.
So, what are the signs of love addiction exactly?
Signs of Love Addiction
-Mistaking sex for being in love
– Life is becoming unmanageable as a result of your relationship
-Neglecting friends, family, and social engagements if it doesn’t include your partner
-Depending too much on your partner for all your needs
-Always feeling the need to be in a relationship
-Constant need for attention from significant other when in a relationship
-Feeling extremely lonely when not in a relationship
-Being incapable of maintaining relationship after excitement reaches plateau
-The idea of being single seems unbearable
-Acting out sexually (whether in or out of a relationship)
-Being attracted towards emotionally, verbally, and/or physically abusive people
-Doing activities you dislike to satisfy your partner
-Giving up your important routine tasks and hygiene to make time for your partner
-Having sex with strangers to avoid having relationships
-Having fears of being in committed relationships
-Having sex as a coping mechanism to deal with issues that are on going in your life
-Avoiding personal, family, work, or other engagements due to relationship
-Going against the warnings of others and reverting back to previous relationships that didn’t work in the past
If you could identify with any of the above, you might be experiencing a love addiction. Love addiction is often derived from deeply inflicted wounds bound from control issues. By digging into the surface and working on the issues, you can decipher what is really going on with you instead of running from them. When you are hiding how you feel and covering them up with lies of love, you are hurting yourself and involving other people’s emotions. You may already be in the middle of a love addiction and codependent with your counterpart, making it difficult to break away from your loved one. Recovering from a loved addiction is however possible and seeking help is recommended. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a 12-Step Fellowship program that offers support for suffers who wish to recover from their addiction of compulsively engaging in or avoiding sexual behavior.
Addictions can tend to go hand in hand as co-occurring disorders. Are you suffering from an addiction to alcohol and/or drugs? The Watershed is a leading addiction treatment facility equipped to help individuals recover from the peril of the disease of addiction. Hope can be restored in any individual who takes the first step toward recovering, even you. All you have to do is pick up the phone and start by calling at 1-800-861-1768.Tags: Love, love addiction, love quiz, Valentine, valentine’s day