With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt. – Zig Ziglar
Stop Being Confused
The holidays can be a stressful time for all. Sometimes it’s the fear of relapsing for those that are new in recovery and for those of us who have a little time under our belt; it’s more about the reflection of what was and what may become. How many times have we placed ourselves in a situation that later would cause us and others harm? How many times have we claimed to be confused about a decision because we were too scared to do what we knew was the right action? Instead of playing the confused card after we have meditated about it and talked with others, why not pick what we know is the right choice?
Here is how I see it.
I pray about a certain decision that could ultimately change my life and usually get “confused” about what I should do. I ask my supports, and in many cases, I get the answer I need. If that is not what I want to do, I continue to pray about it. I ask my Higher Power to be more obvious and now I can feel what the right choice is, but see, the right choice may require more work and action on my part.
So what do I do?
I do what I want to do and not what I need to do. See, I am the type of person who wants the easier softer way. I don’t like to do work or put too much action into changing my life, I would it rather it just happen smoothly. This almost always has bitten me in the butt. If when I feel guilty, hide what I am doing, or I second guess myself in a way that only I know is because I may be making the wrong decision, then I am surely not on the path I need to be on. It really is that simple. When I make a decision based on my wants (selfish) and do whatever it takes to get what I want (self-seeking), I usually end up hurting myself and others (self-centered).
What happens then?
I end up having to do the “need” part to change my life, again. Now I have to put even more work in and clean up the mess I have created. If you think that once you get clean and sober that you won’t make silly decisions based on wants and self, you may want to rethink that. It’s not abnormal to want something so bad that you are willing to risk all that you have acquired to obtain it, and if you’re willing to go through pain, then you certainly can do it. Now, if you are anything like me, pain is the last thing you want to feel. So how does one avoid the kind of pain that only a drink/drug or solution can fix? Simple, stop being confused because you know what you should do, but are too scared to do!
Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May all your needs be met and wants be your needs in the end.
Written By: Watershed AshlingTags: inspiring quotes, keep calm, motivational monday meditation, Watershed Ashling