“Hey, I found your nose. It was in my business.”
Mind Your Own Business
It’s only human to place our nose into another’s business. Sometimes we feel the need to share our opinion on how they should handle a particular situation or how they should be living their lives, because we think we know better. Sometimes our advice is correct and sometimes it’s wrong, but either way, if it wasn’t asked of us, it’s none of our business.
Don’t Rob Others Of Their Bottom
The truth is that we do not know what each person’s journey is supposed to be or look like. We do not know what lessons they are going to need to learn or experience. If they are alcoholic/addict, we do not know the pain they must go through in order to reach and bottom and recover. When we see people in harm’s way, we certainly can intervene, but we should remember to have appropriate boundaries so that we can be helpful and supportive and not destructive and enabling.
Attraction Not Promotion
The longer we stay sober the more experiences we have. The more experiences we have the more knowledge we have gained and thus we feel that we know what is best for others. We forget that we had to learn our own way and so do those who we try to help. When asked, it’s great to give our experience, but if we have not been asked and our opinion or suggestion is given from a place of ego and pride, we may want to see why we feel the need to stick our noses in their lives and not mind our business.
Then there are those who speak ill of us. They gossip and talk poorly about us, our program, and anything else that bothers them. Sometimes these people get followers and there can be a group of people gossiping. Isn’t it then our place to defend ourselves? Not always, we think. If what they say about us comes from a dark place (clearly if they are gossiping about us it’s not from a loving supportive place) then would it really matter if we “defended” ourselves? No, they are going to think, feel, and say whatever they want regardless. The best line of defense is to speak through your actions. Do not let others drag you down to their level. As long as we are happy with ourselves and living along spiritual lines, we need not worry about what others think. So, basically, what others think of us is none of our business.
The best way to mind your own business is to put the focus back on you. When we focus on how we can improve ourselves and grow spiritually, we do not burn our energy foolishly trying to fix others. If you are unsure if you are being to nosey or pushy, you may want to meditate about it, pray to your higher power, and talk to your sober supports and sponsor (being careful not to cause harm by gossiping). This will help you weed out any character defects that may be in your way from being of service and helping others.
Written By: Watershed AshlingTags: motiva, motivation, motivational monday meditation