How difficult it can be sometimes for those in early recovery to celebrate the holidays, especially one like Father’s day. Some, who are new in recovery and have created a lot of damage in their addiction, may find it very emotional when it comes to holidays surrounded by family members. There are those who have caused harm to their dads and are no longer on good terms, those who have never met their dad or feel their dad is not there for them, and those who are fathers themselves but have let down the children that once looked up to them. The truth is that trying to repair family issues while also attempting to put your own life back together can be hard, but not impossible. Here are some suggestions that can help you celebrate and find the best gifts for dad this Father’s day.
If you are a father yourself, want to celebrate your dad this Father’s day, or do both, here are some suggestions that may help you find the best gifts for dad.
Best Gifts For Dad
The Broken Relationship
Make the day about either your child or your father. If you family is not near you, send a card, call them, or send a gift (if you can afford it) to let them know that you are thinking of them. If your father or child is near you and you would like to do something nice for them, go ahead and make that attempt (only after you have spoken with your sponsor and sober supports about the situation). Even if they reject you, it’s OK, there was damage that has been caused and it takes time for them to heal, too – be patient, and remember others were patient when you were in your disease. This is also a time where you should be talking to your sponsor and other sober supports to get additional suggestions to your specific situation that could help. Only you know what kind of relationship you have with your loved one, so just be aware that this is about them (even if they’re your kid) and not about how you feel. Just because this Father’s day may not look like what you want it to, doesn’t mean that will last forever. You must continue to move forward in your recovery doing the next right thing. This is not the time to loath in self-pity, it’s a time to grow and become an even better man than you were yesterday. It’s through our experiences (both good and bad) that we learn and grow from in recovery.
The Healthy Relationship
Although it may not be the ideal relationship that you wanted to have with your father or child, it is your relationship and you can make it better. This is a great opportunity to show your Father or child how much you love them. You can certainly give them a gift, card, or take them out to eat; but the most important thing you can do is think of their needs before your own. Recovery is a process and sometimes all the family wants from the early recovered addict/alcoholic is action. No more lip service; be about the action and help create a better you and a better life with your family through those actions.
The Gift Of Recovery Is One Of The Best Gifts For Dad
There are plenty of gifts that you could get, but the best gifts for dads is the gift of awareness, accountability, humility, responsibility and being self-less are the greatest gifts you can give anyone, especially during Father’s day (and every day). If you are not able to (or do not want to) celebrate Father’s day, remember that there are others going through a difficult time, too. Step out of self and be there for others in your sober community; they may need your support more than you need theirs.
Do you have an experience that could help others during Father’s day? Or have some suggestions for the best gifts for dad this Father’s Day? Please share with us today!