When you are recovering from addiction or alcoholism, learning how to let go of resentment can be challenging. Resentment, the strong and painful bitterness you feel towards someone when they wronged you, has a very heavy weight on you emotionally and can take a long time to get rid of. Resentments can potentially last for years; learning how to let go of that anger in sobriety is important. When you learn how to let go of resentment, it will help you grow stronger in your journey to a new life in recovery and help you become a better person.
How to Let Go of Resentment: Forgiveness
The first step when learning how to let go of resentment is forgiveness. Consider forgiving the person and reflect on the situation and resentment. In fact, there are some beneficial outcomes when you forgive someone:
- Healthier relationships
- Greater well-being
- Less anxiety
- Lower blood pressure
- Less symptoms of depression
- Lower risk of relapse
It’s extremely easy to hold a grudge, so learning how to let go, take a look at the resentment as a whole and try and figure out if you had any part in it. Normally when you are holding resentments towards someone, there might be a character defect and fear behind that resentment. For example, say you have a resentment towards someone you went to school with. They were attractive and popular, they always got the hot girlfriend/boyfriend, and they seemed to have everything you wanted. That is a resentment that is difficult to let go of, but the defect behind that is jealousy; the fear may be “fear of not being good enough.”
Seeing your part in the resentment will help you have a better understanding on what’s going on with yourself and what you may need to work on; you can’t control anyone but yourself. When you move away from your role as the victim, you will no longer let this resentment define your life and let it control you. Giving compassion and understanding to others will help you become a healthier person in the long run.
4 Powerful Tips In Letting Go
Whether you choose to forgive this person and look at your part in the resentment or not, these 4 powerful tips when learning how to let go of resentment should help you in your journey to recovery from drugs and alcohol.
- Pray for the person you resent.
- Consider what defect of your own is causing you to resent this person.
- Consider what personal fear is the seed of this resentment.
- Consider forgiveness and moving on.
Resentments will keep us sick – it’s important that when learning how to let go of resentment, you consider trying these 4 powerful steps and moving on with your life.Tags: Fear, Higher Power, how to overcome fear, letting go, Recovery, resentments, Watershed Alumni