So, you’re dating an addict. Rough, huh? Dating a drug addict can add a lot of stress and problems in a relationship, as well as some codependency issues. In a codependent relationship, the drug addict can be very persuasive and manipulative, which could lead to you feeling trapped. It is important to know that dating a drug addict is similar to dating someone with a life threatening disease. You should support them (in a healthy way) and love them, but should not cause harm to your own well-being. Addiction is a disease and if a solution is not found for the addict, it may end in death. Here are some tips and tricks on how to prevent being in a codependent relationship.
Preventing A Codependent Relationship
Communication is key
Explain how you feel, what they’re doing to themselves, etc. Every relationship needs communication, and communication (without accusing, pointing fingers or controlling them) can help keep the calm in this storm. Communicating with your loved one can help prevent a codependent relationship.
Set healthy boundaries
Along with communication, set boundaries such as: emotional/physical space, set your limits, be assertive and direct, and let it be known what you will and will not tolerate. You have a right to say no to them, if it’s in violation to your boundaries or limits. You need to take care of yourself first, therefore preventing a codependent relationship. Being a care taker is perfectly okay, as long as you set the boundaries beforehand.
Go to a support group
There are tons of support groups and 12 step programs for helping yourself in situations like dating a drug addict. There are Al-Anon or Nar-Anon friends and family groups. There is CoDA (Co-Dependents Anonymous) that can also help you with tools on how to separate yourself from a codependent relationship. When dating a drug addict, you don’t want to make their addiction become your addiction. You also don’t want to end up getting addicted to dating a drug addict; that puts your life in danger. It is also important to learn about what they’re going through with the disease of addiction; learn about their disease and try to identify with how they’re feeling.
In a codependent relationship, you probably want to “save” your loved one on your own, but you can’t. You want your loved one to agree to receive help. Giving an ultimatum is not always a great idea, but if the pain is great enough, you may need to be prepared to walk away. There are many ways to get help; one of which is an intervention, where all your family and loved ones gather together or call for professional help.
Dating A Drug Addict
If dating a drug addict affects you physically, emotionally, or mentally, it may be best to get out of that relationship. You don’t want to put your life in danger for someone else or put yourself in a codependent relationship. It’s pretty important that you go ahead and get help, whether it’s from a support group or therapy, to get yourself back together. Being in those types of situations (abuse from a loved one) can take a toll on you. If it hasn’t gotten to that point, get your loved one the help that they need before it’s too late. Drug addiction is life or death. For more information on drug rehab centers, call us at 1-800-861-1768, our lines are open 24/7.Tags: coda, Codependency, codependent, drug addicts, healthy boundaries, relationships