HALT = Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired.
Meditation on HALT
When you get that feeling of just feeling off, it’s best to halt for a second and ask yourself 4 simple questions “am I hungry, angry, lonely, and/or tired?” Most of us found that we were suffering from at least one of those feelings when we were in self-pity mode. Alcoholics and addicts do best when they live a balanced life, which is why it is so important to not only identify these feelings, but take action towards fixing them.
A well balanced diet is extremely important to the addict or alcoholic in recovery. For years many of us ate poorly, and our diets were somewhat nonexistent. As we entered recovery we needed to change those eating habits and begin to take care of our body’s nutritional intake. So if you are finding yourself off the beam, double check when the last time you ate was.
When we halt and recognize that we are angry, if there is cause, we can address that by mediation, talking with a sponsor, a spiritual advisor, a therapist or even a friend in recovery. We have plenty of tools in recovery that we dive into in order to alleviate the anger problem, but what about the anger we can’t identify? Ever feel angry inside and not sure the how or why of it? That’s pretty normal for people in recovery. Sometimes it’s Post-Acute Withdrawal (PAWS) and sometimes it’s something else. Once you halt and you asked yourself those questions, if you answer yes to more than just anger, it may be that the anger is caused by being hungry, lonely, or tired. If you can’t identify where that anger is coming from, sometimes we just feel and the only thing we can do is go through the motion. Don’t worry though, it won’t last forever.
Loneliness can come in all forms. It doesn’t have to only come when we are alone. We can certainly feel alone in large crowds too. Loneliness starts from the inside and as a result of our thinking and perception. If we are feeling lonely, we can address it by mediation, talking about our feelings with others in recovery, and taking action towards not feeling lonely. Helping others or being of service is a great way to curb the lonely feeling. The longer we stay in recovery and connect with our Higher Power as well as others in recovery; we see how our loneliness subsides on its own.
It’s not abnormal for an alcoholic/addict in recovery to go full throttle. In the beginning, many find themselves drinking lots of coffee or energy drinks. Most times the days are filled to the max and there isn’t much time to think. The head may hit the pillow that night, and sleep seems to come hours later. The body and mind are off balanced and as a result, we tire more easily but seem to attain little sleep. Try cutting down on the caffeine or energy drinks, exercise is also a great way to sync the mind and body, plenty of water, balanced diet, and regular sleep schedule. If your sleep pattern is normal and you find that you are just tired, halt and rest. You may be just one nap away from a good mood.
This Too Shall Pass
The great news here is, recovering addicts and alcoholics have a connection with others who have either gone through whatever feeling we are going through, or are going through it now. This brings great comfort because we know that we are not only not alone, but there is a solution to whatever is blocking us from our happiness in recovery. So next time you are feeling off, remember to HALT!
Written By: Watershed Ashling